Find Out Why, Realize Your Motivation and Desire

With all the talks about personal improvement and taking control of personal finance, one may wonder how on earth can we consistently stay disciplined and not to be distracted by seeking momentary pleasure and a hedonistic lifestyle. Or just take some other easy way out. To which, I quote and I believe…

When there is a will, there is a way.

This applies to all scenarios in life. Sometimes you face problems in life. Sometimes you want to get rid of a bad habit. Sometimes you have a dream yet accomplished. Sometimes you have a hobby you want to pick up. When you encounter all these scenarios, and you frequently would think, “How should I go about this?” But you also frequently skip a most important initial step.

Find Out Why, Realize the Motivation, Dig Up Your Desire

People often start themselves off in the wrong foot by losing focus and asking the wrong questions. It is not really about how, fundamentally. It is about why. You need to ask yourself why you want to do that certain things first. You NEED to clarify to ourselves the reasons behind the action. You need to find that flaming desire inside, light it up, and pour gasoline on it, by crystalizing the why. ONCE you are able to grasp the why, the how will come more naturally because you will keep trying and you can follow through with much less difficult because there is a driving force behind the action.

You must think clearly about and define the “why” because sometimes you think you know but the idea is only vague in you mind and not certain, if you don’t spend time trying to grasp it. When you know precisely why, you become more passionate, energized, driven, and willing to understand and follow through with the how. If the why does not exist or is not a crystalized thought, it is likely you will not be able to finish what you are trying to do.

Like I said, this applies to all aspects in life. Some examples…

  • Want to get rid of bad habit? Find out why. (ex. mal-effect on health, dislike by closed-ones…)
  • Want to have your finance under control or save money? Find out why. (ex. retiring early and luxuriously, buying a house…)
  • Want to learn something? Find out why. (ex. current job sucks and must have a career change, or just want to feel better about myself! etc.)

I think you know what I am trying to get at by now. It is the main step in the process to make up your mind and commit to do something 100%. So next time you are trying to decide if you want to do something or you face a delimma. Ask yourself why and find that desire inside yourself first. If you can’t, then maybe you should not be doing it. If you can, the how gets a lot easier knowing why.

Originally posted 2007-03-20 22:37:08. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Money Solves All Money Problem

Sitting down with a few friends at dinner and lamenting about money, and many things that we can do if we have more money.

Is money so important? The answer is yes, given our context. Money is so important due to the importance our society places on it. You can say money doesn’t exist. But money exist in the context of our society and civilization, especially how much power it grants you these days. Despite originally created as bartering tool… it has become a very very powerful tool that we can have.

Life’s all about money! (not)

Of course, with all guys at the table, we did say how it’ll help us get girls! lol

Despite poor getting poorer and rich getting richer and supposed “class warfare,” the only attitude to money I can see is for us to accept it for what is and understand how it is a useful resources in our society.

Don’t hate it, and definitely don’t hate people because they are rich.. I say, be precise! Dislike them for their characters if you really want to dislike them :)

Realize yet, money doesn’t solve all problem.

Money solves all money problems… and many problems involve money in our life

Never say money is not important, which I don’t anyone can say unless they “quit” living in civilization. I want to manage it now, save/invest diligently now because I don’t want money to be the primary issue in making the many decisions in life.

Moreover in terms of marriage, it seems to always be the last straw that breaks the relationship apart. Not having money in a marriage is like not having the number 2 pencil when you need to take a written exam. The pencil won’t help you to ace it but without the pencil, it doesn’t matter how smart you are or how well you know the materials! Marriage is like so.

Money is a resource to be utilized to solve our money problem so we can enjoy life and give our best to improving all the other (more important) aspects in life.

At least, this is how I see it.

Originally posted 2012-11-13 00:14:14. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

How much money do you save per month?

Came across this survey on CreditDonkey.com – Scary: Americans Saving Less Than $100 a Month. It’s always interesting to see where ourselves stand compared to others.

Saving per month 2012 2013
$1000+ 5.0% 6.8%
$500+ 9.6% 12.9%
$100+ 30.2% 46.8%
<$100 55.2% 33.5%

Although the sample size is relatively small at just over 1100 respondents, the figures still tell of trends.

A good amount of people has a difficult time to save any each month. Although for the topic of saving, the trend is going in a good direction with more people being able to save more than $100.

While the life we live include many needs, it remains that with determination, discipline and clarity, there are actions we can take to trim expense by figuring out what’s really needed and save more. I understand it is just very difficult for people in certain situation…

Well, that makes it not surprising that it says 38% “do not have at least $100 cash on hand” in the 2nd part of CreditDonkey’s post. I cannot imagine how nerve wrecking it would be. My anxiety level would go through the roof.

Another thing shown is that it remains difficult for many to save a significant amount of money monthly as people who can or plan to save more than $500 for both years do not extend 20%.

In the end, it boils down to what we want in life. Given, you have sit down and really figure it out. I fall into the saving $1000+ category for the simple reason that I desire to reach financial independence sooner than “retirement age.” That is a purpose I’ve had. I want it bad enough.

Saving. It’s a choice. A decision that each of us has to arrives at on our own.

So, it is ok to spend more now and save less if you’re ok to continue [and be restricted] to keep a job or you really plan to succeed in a career.

But because of my said purpose, beyond the need for short-term financial security, beyond the always discussed need of emergency saving, I’m saving above and beyond with a sense of urgency — which makes me quite the minority I believe — though I really have no idea how much my peers save. I always wonder…

So perhaps you can help me out readers… How much do you save? And for what reason?

Originally posted 2013-03-04 23:36:14. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Mother Earth and Nature are Precious

Let me repeat, Mother Earth and Nature are precious. Sometimes we all get so caught up with our busy life and we forget. We forget that humans are part of the animal kingdom. We forget the existence of nature that sustains our livelihood. We have come to act like we are separate and bigger than nature, while the entire time…

We human beings are a part of nature…
As the air we breath.
As the water we drink.
As the ground we walk.
As the sun that shines.

Upon expressing my sentiments, a colleage shared with me a poster on his wall. It is a wonderful piece written by Chief Seattle, as a letter in response to President George Washington’s offer to purchase his tribe’s land. Upon research, I found that it is not the authentic writing. Nonetheless, I love the messages brought to life by the words.

THIS EARTH IS PRECIOUS

How can you buy or sell the sky, the warmth of the land? The idea is strange to us. If we do not own the freshness of the air and sparkle of the water, how can you buy them?

ALL SACRED

Every part of this earth is sacred to my people.

Every shining pine needle, every sandy shore, every mist in the dark woods, every clearing and humming insect is holy in the memory and experience of my people. The sap which courses through the trees carries the memories of the red man.

The white man’s dead forget the country of their birth when they go to walk among the stars. Our dead never forget this beautiful earth, for it is the mother of the red man.

We are part of the earth and it is part of us.

The perfumed flowers are our sisters; the deer, the horse, the great eagle, these are our brothers.

The rocky crests, the juices in the meadows, the body heat of the pony, and man–all belong to the same family.

NOT EASY

So, when the Great Chief in Washington sends word that he wishes to buy land, he asks much of us. The Great Chief sends word he will reserve us a place so that we can live comfortably to ourselves.

He will be our father and we will be his children. So we will consider your offer to buy our land.

But it will not be easy. For this land is sacred to us.

This shining water that moves in the streams and rivers is not just water but the blood of our ancestors.

If we sell you land, you must remember that it is sacred, and you must teach your children that it is sacred and that each ghostly reflection in the clear water of the lakes tells of events and memories in the life of my people.

The water’s murmur is the voice of my father’s father.

KINDNESS

The rivers are our brothers, they quench our thirst. The rivers carry our canoes, and feed our children. If we sell you our land, you must remember, and teach your children, that the rivers are our brothers, and yours, and you must henceforth give the rivers the kindness you would give any brother.

We know that the white man does not understand our ways. One portion of land is the same to him as the next, for he is a stranger who comes in the night and takes from the land whatever he needs.

The earth is not his brother, but his enemy, and when he has conquered it, he moves on.

He leaves his father’s graves behind, and he does not care.

He kidnaps the earth from his children, and he does not care.

His father’s grave, and his children’s birthright, are forgotten. He treats his mother, the earth, and his brother, the sky, as things to be bought, plundered, sold like sheep or bright beads.

His appetite will devour the earth and leave behind only a desert.

I do not know. Our ways are different from your ways.

The sight of your cities pains the eyes of the red man. But perhaps it is because the red man is a savage and does not understand.

There is no quiet place in the white man’s cities. No place to hear the unfurling of leaves in spring, or the rustle of an insect’s wings.

But perhaps it is because I am a savage and do not understand.

The clatter only seems to insult the ears. And what is there to life if a man cannot hear the lonely cry of the whippoorwill or the arguments of the frogs around a pond at night? I am a red man and do not understand.

The Indian prefers the soft sound of the wind darting over the face of a pond, and the smell of the wind itself, cleaned by a midday rain, or scented with the pinion pine.

PRECIOUS

The air is precious to the red man, for all things share the same breath–the beast, the tree, the man, they all share the same breath.

The white man does not seem to notice the air he breathes.

Like a man dying for many days, he is numb to the stench.

But if we sell you our land, you must remember that the air is precious to us, that the air shares its spirit with all the life it supports. The wind that gave our grandfather his first breath also receives his last sigh.

And if we sell you our land, you must keep it apart and sacred, as a place where even the white man can go to taste the wind that is sweetened by the meadow’s flowers.

ONE CONDITION

So we will consider your offer to buy our land. If we decide to accept, I will make one condition: The white man must treat the beasts of this land as his brothers.

I am a savage and I do not understand any other way.

I’ve seen a thousand rotting buffaloes on the prairie, left by the white man who shot them from a passing train.

I am a savage and I do not understand how the smoking iron horse can be more important than the buffalo that we kill only to stay alive.

What is man without the beasts? If all the beasts were gone, man would die from a great loneliness of spirit.

For whatever happens to the beasts, soon happens to man. All things are connected.

THE ASHES

You must teach your children that the ground beneath their feet is the ashes of your grandfathers. So that they will respect the land, tell your children that the earth is rich with the lives of our kin.

Teach your children what we have taught our children, that the earth is our mother.

Whatever befalls the earth befalls the sons of the earth. If men spit upon the ground, they spit upon themselves.

This we know: The earth does not belong to man; man belongs to the earth. This we know.

All things are connected like the blood which unites one family. All things are connected.

Whatever befalls the earth befalls the sons of the earth.

Man did not weave the web of life: he is merely a strand in it.

Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself.

Even the white man, whose God walks and talks with him as friend to friend, cannot be exempt from the common destiny.

We may be brothers after all.

We shall see.

One thing we know, which the white man may one day discover, our God is the same God. You may think now that you own Him as you wish to own our land; but you cannot. He is the God of man, and His compassion is equal for the red man and the white.

This earth is precious to Him, and to harm the earth is to heap contempt on its Creator.

The whites too shall pass; perhaps sooner than all other tribes. Contaminate your bed, and you will one night suffocate in your own waste.

But in your perishing you will shine brightly, fired by the strength of God who brought you to this land and for some special purpose gave you dominion over this land and over the red man.

That destiny is a mystery to us, for we do not understand when the buffalo are all slaughtered, the wild horses are tamed, the secret corners of the forest heavy with scent of many men, and the view of the ripe hills blotted by talking wires.
Where is the thicket? Gone.
Where is the eagle? Gone.
The end of living and the beginning of survival.

Whatever we do to nature, it will come back to us. If we don’t live to experience it now, then may our children do so in our place. People can keep talking about going green. People can market about carbon offsets all they want. People can keep urging for lower emission cars. People can keep arguing. People can keep asking for more and better evidence.

In the end, if people truly care for nature and the environment, they will come to understand that we are part of nature and their action will speak such understanding. If their intention is pure, it will be clear in their action. The same for ill intention.

Everything’s connected. What we do to other things on earth will be done upon us eventually. If our doings cause fast extinction to other species, then so shall be our fate. We are part of nature. If we are harming it, we are harming us. We are all one.

Originally posted 2008-01-09 23:26:19. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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