Happy New Year, and Screw New Year Resolution

First of all, Happy New Year everyone!

It is that time of the year again, when everyone talks about new year resolution. So will I, but perhaps you are thinking, “Why did he say ‘Screw New Year Resolution’?”

Well, new year resolution… is just that, new year resolution. Once new year is over, so is the resolution. Oh, yet another demonstration of the short-term mentality that people have these days. Short-term like how people temporarily become nice to their partners for a special day or go on extreme diet to look thin for an occasional event. Now if you are already nice to your partner and become extra nice to them… that’s a different and good story.

At new year’s time, people formulate their new year resolution and carry them out for perhaps, a day, a week, a month… MAYBE couple months. Some people don’t even last a day. Let’s be totally honest because we can see that in people around us and maybe you are one of them. Don’t kid yourself.

Therefore, can we please stop talking about new year resolution? Please? While we are at it, let us forget about birthday resolution, and whatever special day resolution there maybe. If you must wait for these “special” days to make changes, I say you may as well forget it because it will not last. Honestly.

You can start by thinking what you want your life to be.
Envinsion who you want to be.
Think of the legacy you want to leave behind when you die.
Don’t let identities, labels, and egos drive you.
Don’t let fear stops you.
Don’t let the “impossibles” stop you.
Don’t let “what everyone else does” stops you.
Don’t wait for the “special” day to start changing.
Be responsible for yourself.
Start changing NOW.
Stop taking the path of least resistence.
Stay in the moment and make the choices necessary.

It is important to know where you want to go so you will go in the right direction, but do not lost sight of the moment and do not stop paying attention to each step because such attention and awareness of the moment, you have lose yourself.

If you are not already doing what you need or want to do according to your values, it is time to ask why. Why weren’t you already doing it? Why weren’t you already doing it the years before? What is holding you back? Do you know what you want? Do you know your values? Have you figured out your priorities in life?

Screw new year resolution. Now go change yourself for what you want for the rest of your life while staying aware and staying flexible.

Originally posted 2009-01-01 00:15:47. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

I Suck at Giving Advice

I guess it has been a long since I wrote anything that’s personal so here’s a tid bit today just for fun.

My good friend D was accusing me of being not very good at making myself known or heard. Yes, I said. So maybe I should not use the word accusing, but on the other hand, I behave my way not because I don’t want to be known or heard.

Here’s what I do if I shall ever feel enticed or am asked to give advice or suggestion.

— I will say it once.
— I will repeat it.
— I will not say it thrice, unless the other person changes his attitude and shows a damn good display of genuine interest as to why I say what I did, which never happens.

Two things are apparent by the time I said the same thing twice (perhaps paraphrased and presented differently).
— My idea is simply out of the person’s grasp at that moment in time.
— The other person simply does not agree and/or wants to hear what I have to say.

Now the real reason to not repeat myself thrice is this — Let fools persist in their folly and they may become wise.

In other words, let people make mistakes and hopefully they will learn. And because we know that people often DON’T learn from their mistakes, sometimes the necessary evil is, to trick and nudge people into making more mistakes and hopefully they will learn… eventually.

Or in martial arts term, instead of directly resisting an opponent’s attack, one redirects the opponent’s force against himself.

Therefore sometimes, instead of saying what I want to say or what I had said, I instead advise the person simply with what he wants to hear.

Applying this idea in a grandiose scale, we — some humans? — may just have the responsibility to nudge the human civilization into further catastrophe before we will ever learn. Learn about what? Eh, maybe another’s day topic.

And I end my post today promoting — MORE consumption, MORE easy credit, MORE oil drilling, MORE technology, MORE medical drugs, MORE wars, More MOre MOrE~~~~!

Originally posted 2010-06-02 23:54:55. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Use Your Imagination to Learn

Imagination is a mental capacity that’s enabled by our ability to think. No doubt, it’s a double-edged sword, but used correctly, it can greatly enhance our ability to learn.

Not that I have scientific proof, but it is something I picked up and found tremendously useful when I practice fencing, singing, basketball, piano… especially piano, there is such thing called “mental-play”. Supposedly Beethoven is a master of that, which is he can play perfectly blind!

It is pretty simple, just requires both mental strength and awareness to observe your own thoughts. Whatever you wan to do, be it a physical movement, a goal you want to accomplish, try to imagine yourself doing it.

Now, can you see yourself doing it?

If you can, keep repeating it and most likely, your chance of success will be enhanced. If you CANNOT, that is fine too and it is time to explore what is holding you back.

If it is a physical movement/exercise, you need to feel your own body. How are you breathing? How is your posture? Which part of your body, down to specific muscle, is tense? You need to be able to feel your body to make progress.

If it is a abstract goal, something you need to do, then it is time to examine what is holding you back. What are your values? What skills you need to learn? Why are you not confident? What kind of friends do you keep? How many things are you doing? Maybe you are watching too much TV?

According to Craig Harper, before he opened his gym, he has been running his gym in his mind for years. Before he trained his first client, he has trained thousands of clients in his mind before. I believe him.

I took what I learned from physical activities and applied it in my work settings when have important meetings or presentations, it is quite helpful. Think of imagination as a sub-version of you doing the actual things. Practice makes perfect, right?

Originally posted 2008-11-29 00:22:40. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Handling Reality – aka Duality – Use Compromise

2 posts back I talked about importance to perceive duality in life. 3 posts back I said that life is all about relationships.

Life in the existing reality is a combination of countless relationships between dualistic elements. Therefore, solutions to problems in reality can only be a compromise within each relationship. UNLESS, you choose to destroy that relationship.

Knowing that, we should know to be cautious when we proclaim that we need to defeat this or we need to beat that to solve our problems in real life.

If you take away sadness, you will not be happy. (Therefore, it’s a futile battle against depression.)
If you try to control or take over someone else’s life, you are destroying your relationship with that person. (It will become one between owner and slave.)

All the duality in life…

Happiness and sadness.
Saving and spending.
Student and teacher.
Certainty and uncertainty.
Selfishness and selflessness.
Good and evil.

Our well being, along with nature’s well being, is when duality is kept in balance without one side overpowering the other. Therefore, an aware person’s solution to a “problem” is always one of compromise to bring balance back.

Remember, compromise.

Originally posted 2009-06-01 21:42:38. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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