Living Your Words

Lately I had encountered more instances of people not keeping their words, than I hoped. It has led to a general feelings of disappointment in people, sadly.

Most of them happened along the lines of people inviting me to outting/dinner, but I only found out they cannot make it or it’s canceled in the aftermath of me showing up at the appointed time and place. I called them people because I am considering if I should still call these people friends.

Whatever happened to keeping our words, seriously.

Was I mad? You bet I was. Briefly. From the initial moment of shock, and then some disappointment and frustration. But I quickly rationalize, “This is not my problem. This is their problem. Hence, this is their responsibility and consequence.” Then most of the negativity inside myself dissipated. Poof!

The truth is that I treated them with the respect as friends, or anyone would deserve. I considered them friends and chose to spend time with them in the expense of not doing other things. I value and trust them. I am paying respect and building my integrity by keeping my words. By doing otherwise, they destroyed the trust that I had for them and their own integrity and trustworthiness. As a result, it becomes their problems, not mine. Why should I be angry?

It definitely sounds like keeping your words sounds pretty important!
Not for some peope apparently.

As such, I will diverge my time and effort to people who deserve them better. People with consideracy. People who know respect. People with integrity. People who keep their words.

This reminds me of the words in the samurai code of Bushido, quoted by Tom Cruise in the Last Samurai interview.

When a samurai has said he will perform an action, it is as good as done. Nothing will stop him from completing what he has said he will do. He does not have to give his word. He does not have to promise. The action of speaking alone has set the act of doing in motion.

It is not that I am advocating everyone to wield katana and follow strict traditions like the samurai in the old days, but it is the exact attribute described above that makes true samurai as respectable as they are, and other people who also possesses that attribute. Call me old fashion but that is something I adhere to also.

It is not only keeping promises.
It is meaning what you say and practicing those same words.
It is not what you said.
It is how you act.

It is what I think how a person should act. Not talk the talk but walk another walk. It is about doing what you say, and what you say should be exactly what you believe and mean. This gives me a sense of fulfillment. This gives me satisfaction. This makes me feel good about myself. Why shouldn’t I do it?

Perhaps this is the one of the many flaws in the current society…
People no longer mean what they say anymore.

What about you? Do you live your words? Or do you constantly throw your words away?

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