Comments on: Tragedy at Stanford – May Zhou http://www.journeyofsuccess.net/2007/01/tragedy-at-stanford-may-zhou Piggy's Blog Wed, 07 Apr 2010 18:37:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: GiE http://www.journeyofsuccess.net/2007/01/tragedy-at-stanford-may-zhou/comment-page-1#comment-707 GiE Wed, 31 Jan 2007 11:10:04 +0000 http://blog.laukin.com/archives/78#comment-707 Interesting story........ She doesn't look like the big bookworm type either. I got curious and digged out some more news on this... He said his daughter's roommate saw no sign his daughter was depressed and that his daughter did not have any problems with her school work. There, depressed = problems with her school work? Hmmm if she really did suicide, I really wonder that's about academic honestly. But it looks like that's his dad's assumption? One doesn't live on this world just to study.... Maybe it's the newspaper who tried to make it sound that way, but I doubt it. “If you’re thinking about your resume, why would you be thinking about suicide?” Yitong Zhou asked in an interview with the San Jose Mercury News. “I don’t believe it. I don’t believe it.” Once again... If she is thinking about resume, it doesn't mean that other things can't get into her way and took the thought about resume away... Doesn't that prove again it might not really be academic related? It looks like he thinks that academic is her whole life... This is kinda ridiculous... Zhou also said that his daughter conducted some “unusual” banking transactions before her disappearance, but he did not elaborate on the details. Maybe he should elaborate. Maybe he does know why the suicide happened but is just in denial of it. Nothing seems unusual to him so why not dig into these unusal transactions? It makes me think that there is some hidden stories behind it. I guess I'm really thankful that my parents have always let me decide on what I wanna do academically/career-wise. This father apparently cares nothing about her daughter besides academic, academic and academic. To him, her inner feelings can only be affected academically?? OMG if that's true... it's so wrong..... Interesting story……..
She doesn’t look like the big bookworm type either.

I got curious and digged out some more news on this…

He said his daughter’s roommate saw no sign his daughter was depressed and that his daughter did not have any problems with her school work.

There, depressed = problems with her school work? Hmmm if she really did suicide, I really wonder that’s about academic honestly. But it looks like that’s his dad’s assumption? One doesn’t live on this world just to study…. Maybe it’s the newspaper who tried to make it sound that way, but I doubt it.

“If you’re thinking about your resume, why would you be thinking about suicide?” Yitong Zhou asked in an interview with the San Jose Mercury News. “I don’t believe it. I don’t believe it.”

Once again… If she is thinking about resume, it doesn’t mean that other things can’t get into her way and took the thought about resume away… Doesn’t that prove again it might not really be academic related? It looks like he thinks that academic is her whole life… This is kinda ridiculous…

Zhou also said that his daughter conducted some “unusual” banking transactions before her disappearance, but he did not elaborate on the details.

Maybe he should elaborate. Maybe he does know why the suicide happened but is just in denial of it. Nothing seems unusual to him so why not dig into these unusal transactions?

It makes me think that there is some hidden stories behind it.

I guess I’m really thankful that my parents have always let me decide on what I wanna do academically/career-wise. This father apparently cares nothing about her daughter besides academic, academic and academic. To him, her inner feelings can only be affected academically?? OMG if that’s true… it’s so wrong…..

]]> By: Dario http://www.journeyofsuccess.net/2007/01/tragedy-at-stanford-may-zhou/comment-page-1#comment-689 Dario Fri, 26 Jan 2007 19:02:12 +0000 http://blog.laukin.com/archives/78#comment-689 I see your point... even if I am not asian, I can imagine what it may feel like. What I find really really absurd -for the lack of a better term - and as you noted, is the Father description of her daughter "assertive, happy and confident". For god sake !! if she really killed herself, how could she be <b>any</b> of that??! Confident?? like what??? confidence is the result of the acceptance of oneself... happy??? yeah right. But even you, Kin, felt in the same trap... may be without realizing it.. you miss the point of her death.. or better of her life... you used words like "successful" and "accomplished". Success is not great grades, its not a 6 figure salary, is not a phd or a master, or a having a house and 3 kids. The only meaning of success, in my mind, the only true accomplishment of anyones life... is simply being happy. Knowing and accepting yourself. Anything else is simply what modern society, cultures, and ever changing values impose to the un-thinking individual. Everyone thinks she was real smart.... oh really? that is the poorest defintion of inteligence I can imagine. Withold informtion, have great mathematical skills does not make you inteligent. First and foremost inteligence is the ability to recognize that life is better then death. I mean... it really does not get more simple then that. When I was taking parachuting free fall classes the firt thing my instructor told me: "the sole thing you need to remember after you jump, is to open the parachute". Inteligence, in the true sense of the word, is something much much larger. Recognize the gift of life, the rare opportunity to see, feel and understand... It's take care of your body as much as your mind... control your emotions and find the strenght to be compassionate.. not only to others but to yourself. One last comment ... my life experiences brought me to the realization, long time ago, that parents -by nature- don't know their kids. I don't know if it is an evolutionary impossibility, or a society endemic mis-behaviour... but ... in the vast majority of the cases, this is what happens. So you are not alone, and please don't suffer for that... once you accept reality for what it really is, and you empty your mind from expectations, then you realize that suffering just went away. I see your point… even if I am not asian, I can imagine what it may feel like.
What I find really really absurd -for the lack of a better term – and as you noted, is the Father description of her daughter “assertive, happy and confident”. For god sake !! if she really killed herself, how could she be any of that??! Confident?? like what??? confidence is the result of the acceptance of oneself… happy??? yeah right.

But even you, Kin, felt in the same trap… may be without realizing it.. you miss the point of her death.. or better of her life… you used words like “successful” and “accomplished”. Success is not great grades, its not a 6 figure salary, is not a phd or a master, or a having a house and 3 kids. The only meaning of success, in my mind, the only true accomplishment of anyones life… is simply being happy. Knowing and accepting yourself. Anything else is simply what modern society, cultures, and ever changing values impose to the un-thinking individual.

Everyone thinks she was real smart…. oh really? that is the poorest defintion of inteligence I can imagine. Withold informtion, have great mathematical skills does not make you inteligent. First and foremost inteligence is the ability to recognize that life is better then death. I mean… it really does not get more simple then that. When I was taking parachuting free fall classes the firt thing my instructor told me: “the sole thing you need to remember after you jump, is to open the parachute”. Inteligence, in the true sense of the word, is something much much larger. Recognize the gift of life, the rare opportunity to see, feel and understand… It’s take care of your body as much as your mind… control your emotions and find the strenght to be compassionate.. not only to others but to yourself.

One last comment … my life experiences brought me to the realization, long time ago, that parents -by nature- don’t know their kids. I don’t know if it is an evolutionary impossibility, or a society endemic mis-behaviour… but
… in the vast majority of the cases, this is what happens.
So you are not alone, and please don’t suffer for that… once you accept reality for what it really is, and you empty your mind from expectations, then you realize that suffering just went away.

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